A man was an avid gardener...
Saw a small butterfly laying a few eggs in one of the pots
in his garden since that day he looked at the egg with ever growing curiosity
and eagerness.
The egg started to move and shake a little.
He was exited to see a new life coming up right in front of
his eyes.
He spent hours watching the egg now.
The egg started to expand and develop cracks..
A tiny head and antennae started to come out ever so slowly.
The man's excitement knew no bounds he got his magnifying
glasses and sat to watch the life and body of a pupa coming out.
He saw the struggle of the tender pupa and couldn't resisit
his urge to HELP.
He went and got a tender forcep the help the egg break, a
nip here a nip there to help the struggling life. And LO!
The pupa was out the man was ecstatic!
He waited now each day for the pupa to grow and fly abt like
a beautiful butterfly, but Alas that never happened the larvae pupa had a
oversized head and kept crawling along in the pot for the full 4 weeks and
died!
Depressed the man went to his botanist friend and asked the
reason.
His friend told him the struggle to break out of the egg
helps the larvae to send blood to its wings and the head push helps the head to
remain small so that the tender wings can support it thru its 4 week life
cycle, in his eagerness to help the man destroyed a beautiful life!
Struggles help all of us, that's why a wee bit of effort
goes a long way to develop our strength to face life's difficulties!
As parents, we sometimes go too far trying to help and
protect our kids from life's harsh realities and disappointments.
We don't want our kids to struggle like we did.
But Harvard psychiatrist Dr. Dan Kindlon says that
overprotected children are more likely to struggle in relationships and with
challenges.
We're sending our kids the message that they're not capable
of helping themselves.
To quote clinical psychologist Dr. Wendy Mogel:
"It is Our Job to prepare Our Children for the Road...,
&
Not prepare the road for
Our Children..."
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